#42: Waiting To Wait; Part II

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Special Report #42

Part of the

“I see you to succeeding"

series.

Waiting to Wait
Part II

Previously, I wrote about the topic of emotions and how they are related to weight loss.

The following distinctions may seem minuscule and nit-pickie, but honestly emotional health has more to do with being fat, sedentary, obese and having de-generative dis-ease(s) running in the family than hereditary genes... "emotional health" determines whether a person will "stick to it" and reach their goals and maintain their success or have a hit-and -miss, yo-yo, hurry up / procrasitnate experience like many people do. 

 

In my experience as a trainer, emotional intelligence and emotional-hygiene are the singal greatest factors that determine a healthy lifestyle, motivation and determination regardless how perfect an exercise and nutrition program are. 

 

Ironically, the better your nutritional hygiene the better your brain will be prepared to handle your emotions in the most productive manner. In other words, you have to be emotionally resilient but the brain requires the BNBBs in order to manufacture the function of emotional resilience. 

I was recently watching week 16 of The Biggest Loser / Season 16. One of the participants, "Rob" got really angry when he found out that he was not one of the top 4 finalists, but rather in the top 5. Rob being one of the physically largest competitors from week one was fairly shut down emotionally. The trainers had been reiterating throughout season 16 that he needs to "feel and express" his emotions, rather than being shut down and disassociated by impulsively gorging himself on junk food (SADCRAP). 

As with most personal training clients, the trainer has to get the client going on the exercise and nutrition in order find out which dynamics / strategies (the individual structure of fatness) the client is using to remain sedentary, fat and unhealthy (even in failure, a strategy is being used).

If you recall from the previous article on Weighting to Wait, as the body fat begins melting away the emotions stored in the fat surface and even if those emotions are from past experiences (common), the client experiences them as though they are happening in the present moment causing confusion, reverting to dys-functional habits and lashing out.

The downside of this is that the most common consequence is that people often feel so emotionally overwhelmed in this scenario that they tell themselves they can't move! Even if they are walking on a treadmill they feel as though they can't move. (The point being that the habit of suppressing the emotions, disassociating from them and then burning off the fat where the emotions have been stored makes for a scenario where the old emotions are leaving the body so fast that people tend to feel overwhelmed, believing they are paralyzed with emotional overload.)

It's at this point in the fat loss process that you have to have someone there to make sure you just keep moving... like a trainer or training partner!

The process of realizing that the emotions are from the past, you can keep moving forward even though you don't feel like you can and  a great learning lesson is that feelings aren't always facts!

 

Most people who need to lose fat and haven't gotten "present" with their emotions have been habitually "escaping" emotions by overeating and sedentary lifestyle. Perceptually, people who eat and drink to avoid their emotions honestly believe they can't move forward partly because instead of experiencing emotions to enhance life and then letting them go, they hold them in which requires massive amount of calories and substances and inactivity to maintain the suppressed state. They don't have the experience of feeling the emotions, doing healthy behaviors and then moving forward even though it feels like they can't. (Part of the trainers role). 

So, with this in mind, the productive emotional state you want to have during your process of burning fat and reaching your ideal body composition is to:

1) Notice your emotions,

 

2) Notice when you are having feelings,

 

3) Remember the point of emotions are to enhance the experiences of life, not to suppress, hold, ignore nor disassociate from your feelings.

 

4) If you can name what feeling you're having all the better (naming the emotion makes it conscious so it doesn't have unconscious power over your behavior - emotional eating, addiction to escape being present & sedentary lifestyle as a result of suppressed emotions) 

 

[Emotions are meant to be experienced vs letting your emotions control your behaviors].

Generally speaking, people who are learning healthy emotional hygiene will require some clarity between noticing and releasing vs feeling an emotional and then cultivating that one emotion and "feeding it" in order to get a "high" from expressing intense emotions. Either for the expression itself or to vent / dump / puke on whomever happens to be in the vicinity at the time, especially your trainer or family members. 

In other words, sometimes getting present with emotional expression after a lifetime of not being present, it can feel good to "feel" emotions that the client thinks the point is to manifest greater and greater emotional content for the sake of venting vs simply emoting to express, experience, let it go and move on. 

Again, emotions are supposed to be transient not possessed in order to "get a high" as though emotions are a horse to ride nor a way to gain a adrenaline type stress hormone chemical high...notice, name, express, release.

Also, that it's productive and in your favor to experience a wide range of emotions during the situation. If you're emotionally flat most of the time but create situations, or look forward to situations where you can express your pet emotion, "anger" for example, you'll likely regress to fat producing habits if you happen to experience an emotion other than the comfortable emotion. 

For example, in some families there might be one emotion that is considers acceptable, say anger for example. So the person readily expresses anger no matter the context or situation but suppresses every other emotion. The downside to this is that only expressing one or a narrow few emotions leaves you vulnerable to not having composure when other emotions come up.

That equates to someone who has trouble maintaining consistent success because they are vulnerable to outside influences / stresses since there's no way we can predict or control life so we never experience an emotion unless we have "control" over it. 

Bottom line: the wider variety of emotions you experience and then release they more likely you'll stay the course without emotional surprises which interfere in your progress. 

We're talking about emotional appropriateness.

Yes, we want you to express (release) but not to the point that you are gaining a 'high' by expressing nor imposing your emotions to punish others nor creating negative emotions to disassociate from simply being present, associated and actively engaged in your own life.

Do it now, do it consistently!

"I see you succeeding."