#37: Take A Good Look At Yourself

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Sovereign Michael Valentine

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Special Report #37

Part of the

“I see you to succeeding"

series.

Take A Good Look At Yourself

Truth be told, people generally don't seek nor ask for professional help until they (we) have exhausted every possibility of doing the same actions, yet expecting different results. 

Whether it's finance, relationships, educational options, health or weight loss people often do the strategy that is getting themselves what they don't want to the point that failure IS the only option. In other words, exercising your right to anonymity and individual decisions, yet personally destructive all the same. 

How this comes about (if you look inside and ask, "What came before this?") is that you can trace back where you are today to a long, cascade of choices, events and reactions which got you to a place where you don't want to be today, yet was facilitated by individual choices you insisted you wanted at the time (short term favors to long term disservice a.k.a. emotional decisions made in the moment which affect your whole future). 

The topic here is weight loss, but this applies to all goals, endeavors and aspirations. 

A common denominator among many people who reach their highest held goals is that at a certain point they get so tired of NOT being where they want that they begin to get honest with themselves, stop believing their own self-lies, stop making excuses for doing the actions which inhibit success and change course. 

Once you realize you really do have control to influence your life, how you live, your quality of lifestyle, how you feel about yourself, and that you've kinda been spinning your wheels as far as saying "you're doing it" but deep down you know you aren't, you can trace back through time where and when you made one decision and the next decision and so on which has gotten you way off track to where you are today.

One serous dichotomy (and irony) in life is when we can realize we made decisions which affected our whole adult life, when we were still children!

Generally, one decision is built upon another and another...unfortunately, if the initial decision was based on a misunderstanding, then we have been living what many consider a less-than-authentic life, based on misunderstanding...ultimately wondering why what we want seems just out of reach.

Ultimately, the thing we want most leads us through the process of getting back to where we  started from! This happens by persisting in introspection and self discovery of where we did behaviors and made decisions which dis-empowered ourselves!

Going back through the steps is not to correct or change the past but to realize any success comes from one success action which leads to another. No one does anything perfectly sequential the first time unless they had role models who demonstrated correct action before attempting it themselves! 

 It's just that the people you think of who you consider successful simply invest emotional energy in noticing when they get off track and then getting back on course. This habit of self adjustment becomes an unconscious habit so that it becomes easier with time. 

Remember dot-to-dot coloring books from childhood? It's like that. Say you have a dot-to-dot numbered 1-40, you would start with 40 (representing today) and work your way backwards. Having been raised in a very unhealthy, dysfunctional family this was an intuitive process I worked myself in order to get off the poverty and sabotage track and onto an abundance and success track. 

How I did it was to ask myself, "What came before this?". A picture or memory of my previous action would pop into my mind and I could see how the previous step got me where I was in current time. The next step was to ask the same question again. I repeated this process for each area I wanted to improve about myself.

Now, a "catch" with this process is that sometimes we learn unhealthy eating and drinking habits long before we were mature enough to know we were learning. For example, my health problems were related to excessive sugar consumption, but the baby formula I was given as an infant was cow milk mixed with corn syrup...literally. 

 

So! I became a sugar addict. But from a very early age I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. By age 12, despite peer pressure, I began experimenting with nutrition believing it would help me get on a different health track than the rest of my family. It did take 10 years to hit on a combination that worked, but this was before internet, access to good information or mentors. 

Honestly, a cousin did give my family some Shaklee samples before I was in kindergarten but my mom insisted we couldn't afford it...as for that combination that took me ten years to attain? A significant part of it was related to accidentally bumping into a Shaklee distributor again in September 1993.

The point being I needed to eliminate SADCRAP, add more whole food and add quality supplements to make up for decades of malnutrition (just because you change your mind doesn't mean you lose fat overnight!!). The result was the digestive problems went away, the breathing problems went away, and so on. 

When I tell clients the greatest factor for permanent, healthy fat loss is "lifestyle" it means you have to eliminate the things that are blocking your success, adding the things that enable success and then making up for what you've done to get fat in the first place. There simply is no short cut to this personal work and self development.

Until one gets real honest with themselves (drops the B.S.) investigates what they have been doing to interfere and prevent their own success they won't succeed beyond three months no matter how healthy or unhealthy the program they have selected is. 

Yes, often we're simply doing what we learned growing up (sugar for me), before we even knew we were learning, (my dad would sit and eat sugar cubes throughout the day), but once you're old enough to start making your own decisions, (12 years old for me), the past is something to simply reflect on, learn from (make lemonade out of sour lemons), 

1) forgive, 2) forget, 3) forgive yourself 4) be grateful and 5) focus on the attainment of goals  you intend to live now and in the future. 

If you don't do those 5 steps (in some form or another) the past will likely keep creeping up on you, preventing you from moving forward and clouding your ability to get the most quality out of your life.

The amount or level of intensity or thoroughness that you take a good, hard look at yourself and make changes to your lifestyle depends on how much of a priority your goals are for you, how quickly you want to get your goal and intimately how sustainable the attainment is.

In other words, if you add Shaklee supplements but keep eating SADCRAP you simply won't get as good results. If you eat better but surround yourself with people who live a fat lifestyle you'll have more challenge maintaining course... it's called peer pressure.

If you interpret unhealthy behavior as fun, entertaining and a pay off, you probably won't reach your goals.

You have to give to get and in the context of fat loss that means giving up the bad for the good. 

We all know addicts who can never seem to escape the downward spiral (it's common and predictable), and not everyone will make it... it comes down to internal motivation, values, beliefs and capabilities. The most valuable information in the world won't help a person lose fat if they value emotional payoffs in the moment more than long term health and vitality.

All endeavors are achieved through the vision and feelings of the completed goal in the long run. Addiction is a series of choices based on moment to moment satisfaction. In order to achieve longer term goals (whether relationship, finance, career or health), you have to put off moment to moment comfort for long term satisfaction as well as changing your perception so that you get more satisfaction out of long term success than moment to moment payoffs. 

You really have to look where you were spending / wasting energy versus redirecting it toward what you want your future to be versus attempting to change the past or other people.

An important key here is that people who take Shaklee supplements tend to have higher motivation, will power and follow through since these are all functions of a properly fueled prefrontal cortex of the brain. 

Yes, some people are so malnourished that they don't feel like or have inclination to take the very supplements that would be a fix for them. 

That's the way nature is: if you don't take control of your mind and emotions, nature takes control by shutting them down.

Not everyone makes it. That's what is meant by, "We can't help everyone". For me, I noticed a difference the first time I ate Shaklee and then it took me 20 years to find another Shaklee distributor again...I was only about 4 years old when I made that decision to get some more Shaklee. The next time I got some I noticed a difference in three days.  Now I've been using it consistently for 22 years. 

So, take a good, hard look at yourself and you'll see a dot-to-dot trail of decisions which will provide insight into the strategies you've been using which have been helping or hindering your successes. 

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